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Nikzz's avatar

This exact splitting is what is so common amongst people with borderline personality traits that tiny bit of rejection, criticism and their world turns into black and white, where logic may say that you donot need to sabotage everything but the body wants to survive this no matter what and therefore splitting is oftentimes followed by a self-sabotaging behavior. Very beautifully, you connected it with the window of tolerance mechanism. Very well appreciated.

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Arjun Gupta's avatar

Splitting is a hallmark of borderline personality but has unfortunately become very common in online discourse too.

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Aparupa's avatar

One of the best things I've read in the recent times. Thank you Arjun:)

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Noushin Adiba's avatar

When the situations seemingly scream for you to take sides, thanks for this reminder. So I don't have to feel guilty each time for not picking sides?

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Arjun Gupta's avatar

I think there are some situations where the sides are a no-brainer, but in my experience, those situations are the exception, not the norm.

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